How to Find Your Courage as a Man

What if?  Have you ever played the what if game?  A game where you imagine what it would be like if something happened.  Let’s do that today:  What if you found a secret map to Blackbeard’s lost treasure?  Would you go looking for it or would you try to sell the map?  Would you want the risk of huge reward later that may not happen, or a sure check from someone for the map now?  

What if games are fun for imagination but we live in the everyday.  As men,  there are questions we should always be asking ourselves.  It isn’t a what if question, but is a question about our lives: Do we have courage?  Simple question, but hard to answer.  Courage is defined as the mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.  Would you say you have courage?  How do you know?  

Ask The Questions

  • The saying is that “Curiosity killed the cat,” however, too many men aren’t in danger of that because they have no curiosity.  Too many men live in survival mode and too often just try to make it to another day.  They are being dragged by their calendar or obligations and never have time to even question what they are doing or why they are doing it.  They live in a perpetual state of, “When things slow down…..,” but they never do.

  • Men must start asking questions of themselves.  They must take the time to reflect and ask themselves the hard questions.  Do they show courage in their everyday life or do they just get by.  Too many men are just get by men, but our society needs men who are willing to challenge themselves and our society as a whole with questions.  Here is a great way to focus the question, “Do I have the mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty?”  Asking those questions, starts the process of finding your courage.

Look Within

  • As men, we often look to outside things to validate us.  We get raises or are successful in business, and that makes us feel like we are courageous.  However, courage never comes from the outside.  Our outer life often lives as a reflection of our inner life.  Notice how the definition of courage starts with the Mental and Moral strength.  Those are inner qualities that you must have within if you want to live a life of real courage.

  • Acting tough is not courage.  Bullying and hurting others is not courage.  Courage comes from within and too many men are afraid to do the hard work of looking within.  When a man can look within and begin to see himself for who he really is with strengths and weaknesses, he will begin the process of being courageous.  Change can only come to a man who is willing to honestly and courageously look within himself.

Your courage can be found, but you have to be willing to look for it

If you want to learn the 3 Secrets of Courage come and check out The Focused Man Challenge, August 24-27.  It’s a special challenge designed to help men see clearly through the overwhelm of life.  

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