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Driving home from the hospital with our first child was a sobering moment! We both kept looking back and seeing him in the car seat. We would look at each other and say, “It’s ALIVE!!!!!!” The moment was overwhelming and my journey as a dad started.
Why do we have Dads? Society needs Dads! The effects of fatherlessness are devastating our society and too many young men are growing up with no one showing them what authentic manhood looks like. Too often young men only have images from movies, video games or porn to give them an example of what it is to be a man. We need Dads! We don’t need to beat up on them or make fun of them like tv sitcoms, we need Dads because society is better when fathers are around. Children’s well-being declines and male violence, especially against women, rises as a result of fatherlessness. Dads do two major things in their children’s lives: Speak Life, Show Life.
The words of a father have the power to bring security or insecurity to their children. When a father speaks love and acceptance, the child will be more secure in who they are as a person. When those words are not there, the child is more likely to grow up with strong insecurities which can lead them into all kinds of trouble.
Dads give acceptance to their children when they encourage and affirm them. Too many adults are living their lives seeking the affirmation of their father which they never got as children. We need dads to be involved in their children’s lives and to speak life into them. The most powerful words from a father are, “I love you,” and “I’m proud of you.”
A father’s actions are the example their children will follow. When a child doesn’t have their father, they usually search for models to fill that void. Sports has become a substitute for absent fathers for many children today. Coaches often become surrogate fathers to many children today.
Kids need to see a dad who knows who he is and lives secure. Fathers who still try and act like teenagers are not helping their kids at all. Kids don’t want “cool” parents, they want dependable parents who aren’t emotional roller coasters. Father’s can show life by showing their children the security of a man who is just himself. They don’t have to play a part to impress their kids.
If you are a Dad, I want to say THANK YOU!
If you are a StepDad, I want to say THANK YOU!
Your sacrifices may never be noticed, but the future generations will feel your hard work in the security of your children. Don’t stop working to grow as a man and as a dad, your children will notice and be impacted by your life. You can do this!!